Edging: The Power of Patience

Lets just jump right into this one shall we! If edging hasn't taught me anything else it has taught me the power of patience and how rewarding it can be! So what is edging exactly! "Edging is the method of bringing yourself (or your partner) to the brink of orgasm, then backing away just before it happens, and repeating the process over and over again until you finally reach climax," Dominique Karetsos, resident sex expert at MysteryVibe, tells Elite Daily.

One thing that I enjoy the most about edging is that the only goal is pleasure. This allows me to relax into the moment and directly connects my mind to my body. It's also taught me that I don't have to hold on to what's in front of me to enjoy a new moment or sensation. Oftentimes in my journey this lifetime I would get so caught up on the 'goal' that I think it's the only 'goal' that I will ever have and no other 'goal' could possibly be better than the one I just set for myself. Even though the harder I focused on one particular outcome it would seem to evade me like the plague. At every turn it would disappear almost to say 'This ain't the one". Other times the goal would feel so good to accomplish I would want to accomplish even more goals and if none of those accomplishments felt as HUGE as the last then obviously I did something wrong!!

I am learning to not be afraid to let go of what I think the goal should be, and focus more on how it makes me feel. If it feels good to me then I can lean into that feeling. See where that feeling takes me. See what it wants to show me. Allow myself to be transported to another dimension. When you make the goal feeling good and allowing it opens you up to access other possibilities that could feel just as good if not better.

Edging has also taught me the importance of breathing through the 'setbacks' or changing of pace. When edging yourself you are in control, you know when you're going to give in and allow yourself the pleasure of releasing. When edging with a partner you never know when they will allow you to release. This is where the power of great breathing comes into play. You could spend time being frustrated at not releasing when you felt like you should have or you could breathe and allow your mind and body to stay present.

I've experienced this same frustration when planning my future hoping for one outcome, getting super close to that outcome and being completely derailed!!!! I had to learn how to embrace that change by breathing through it and allowing my body and mind to reasimulate. I would find myself being upset feeling like I did something wrong or not perfect enough, but the reality is somethings aren't meant to be and the things that are meant to be will come into fruition in time.

The only thing within my control in those moments is how I choose to respond to the things going on around me. At every turn there is always a choice in response. I'm learning to choose validating my energy, my thoughts, my longing as well as appreciating all the good that is happening in that moment. I don't have to choose to ignore my hard feelings just to focus solely on what feels really good and easy. The human mind is capable of so much more than just one feeling at a time. Pain and pleasure can go hand and hand.

While on this journey it is important to really focus on how pleasurable the current moment is as well as making room for those other feelings too. If you are only focused on how the "goal" should be, whether it be an orgasm or your accomplishments in life, it starts to feel like agony. That feeling of being so close to the finish line and life being like "not just yet". Exactly like being with a partner that switches the rhythm right before you cum hard and fast. Instead of only focusing on the agony, try adding as many pleasurable things as you can to your focus. Start a pleasure journal and write out all of the things that brought you pleasure throughout the day(hint: it can also be painfully pleasurable).

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